A CHECKLIST FOR FRIENDING FOR FACEBOOK GAMES

A CHECKLIST FOR FRIENDING

Each of us has a different type of criteria that we follow when we are looking over friend requests. In most cases, it depends on our needs. In other cases, it depends on our morals code and belief system.

When it comes to friend requesting, players only care that the person plays their games. 

Some players accept everyone because they figure if the person sent them a friend request, then they must play at least ONE of their games.  

But that's not always so. Sometimes you'll get a Romeo or a looney-toons who becomes a nuisance (or a stalker). And sometimes you actually make a good friend.

There are users who are a bit more discriminating and they literally dissect the profile into sections because they don't want people who come with baggage.

Good Group Admins - especially if their group is for games - have a higher standard for vetting because they are responsible for protecting their group members from gamers who are imposters and from predators who stalk groups in order to scam the members. They start out by following the criteria needed to get approved - namely liking the game's fan page and showing that they play the game.

Assuming the prospective new friend has passed the test of playing your games, here are some things you can ask yourself. Does the person:

- play a lot of other games that you don't play where they may send invites, 

- use pirate apps,

- have scam likes,

- have anything on their account related to Porn

- do a lot of tagging of friends or allow posts on their timeline where they were tagged,

- use neighborhood check-ins

- show their whole friends list to public view

- show their birthdate, city, state, phone number, names and/or links to profiles of their relatives

- have a timeline full of scam posts (nametests dot com, advertising for other groups or Pages, etc.)

- have a LIKES list longer than 100 LIKES, which may or may not include scam pages, products, political and religious pages or opinions sites, belief systems different than your own, etc.

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The reason you should be concerned with some of these is that they are all things that will eventually show up in your own newsfeed, in advertising and Facebook suggestions, and in invitations.

Every time you make a new friend with any of the above, you will have to adjust your newsfeed to allow or disallow their posts and tags, or you will be flooded with notifications of every activity they are engaged in.

Disabling them can be done by clicking HIDE or by un-following the person, but if you have to do that for every person on your friends list, you are going to be very busy.

You can also dismiss it by turning off their notifications - which I strongly suggest that you DO NOT do - because if you are scam tagged, you may miss the notification (warning).

If and when they tag your name on a post or in a group, for example, it may not always show up on your activity log. DIf you shut them off or disable them, you could also delay important notifications. If the user is someone who added you to a group, for example, you might not see that notification for days.



I am reminded of one group member who asked a question on our group wall about how would she know how long she had been in a group that she was added to.  


The answer, of course, is to go to the member list and look at the date under your name.  


She came back and replied that she had found a group she had been a member of for two years and was never aware.  It was because she shut off notifications for groups and also to one lady in particular who was always sharing posts about animal abuse that she found particularly upsetting and didn't want to see the pictures in her timeline.  


Shutting everything off made her miss that that lady had added her to a pornography aficionado group and she had been there for two years.  She said: "I always wondered why I was getting so many men sending me flirty messages!"   I would be remiss if I also didn't mention that her profile picture was Marilyn Monroe as she appeared in the movie "Some Like It Hot."

So Don't Turn Off Notifications for people, but you can shut them off for groups.  Only do it after you are a member of a group and have visited it at least once. Then, you can turn them off so you aren't seeing all the group chatter in your newsfeed and email. Just make sure you visit the group at least once a week to catch up on what you missed. Otherwise, there is no reason to be in the group.

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Lately, we've been seeing Porn on the LIKES list a lot of friend requests. Some of our more alert and astute group members have been catching them and posting the profiles in our groups. 

Many players check LIKES but don't always remember to check NOTES, REVIEWS, timeline posts - especially what other people put on someone's timeline. So check all available Facebook sections.

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Next, you want to see what groups they are in - Before Friending - and then you want to check that list again After Friending. 

You might be surprised what people won't show to the public, but yet they will show it to someone who becomes their Facebook friend. You are looking for porn, or anything else that you don't approve of.

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Next, you want to check for the date of last game play, if the app posts to timeline. Slotomania players have it easy because the game posts to timelines. But you cannot trust timeline posts for Caesars anymore because the app doesn't always post to timeline for every player. There are some android and mobile users who can show game play but many PC users cannot.


If you are still on the fence about accepting their friend request, don't be afraid to ask someone on the mutuals list if the person is a current player.

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TIP: 

To check recent activity of a "friend" if you use a mouse and are on a PC, hover your mouse over their name and it will show you their last activity. However, this doesn't work until after you friend them.

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Last but not least, TRUST YOUR INTUITION. 


Listen to that little voice inside. If you have any apprehensions at all, don't friend them.   

We advise that you also block the person at the same time so that they can't send you another friend request.

We do not advocate using the Mark As Spam button because it can jail the sender. 

We don't want to jail them, we just don't want them to come around again.  Use Block, not Mark As Spam.

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MUTUAL FRIENDS

If you are a player who accepts all friend requests based on the number of mutual friends, please stop doing that.

Use it as a guideline when you are looking at the whole profile, but don't use it as the sole criteria. You don't know if each of those mutuals checked the person out at all.

Use the mutual names as a guide, but do your homework. Look to see if they play YOUR game if you play Caesars or Slotomania because both games have alot of the same players.

There are also one-game players and you could get stuck with someone who doesn't play the game you play.

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BEFORE FRIENDING

-- LOOK THEM OVER THOROUGHLY

-- LOOK AT NOTES, PHOTOS, TIMELINE POSTS etc.

-- CLICK ALL THE ACCESSIBLE SECTIONS OF THE PROFILE

-- ASK THREE TO FIVE  MUTUAL FRIENDS FOR OPINION

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AFTER FRIENDING - people show things they didn't show before friending.

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-- LOOK THEM OVER THOROUGHLY

-- AGAIN, LOOK AT NOTES, PHOTOS, TIMELINE POSTS etc.-  

-- AGAIN, CLICK AROUND ALL ACCESSIBLE SECTIONS OF THE PROFILE

-- IF STILL IN DOUBT, ASK THREE DIFFERENT MUTUAL FRIENDS WHAT THEY KNOW THAT YOU DON'T KNOW


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